On Roommates

     As of the moment, I am renting a room at a good friend's house. It is a 4b/2ba house near my workplace since my permanent address since Oct 2010 has been in SD. My buddy and I used to have a room mate who just recently moved out and I think it is this time again to look for a new one. So, I put up an ad for the vacant room/s. After 2 days of posting it, so far I have 2 potential renters contacted me. Both are males. Am I OK with it? Yes. I know being a female, it is easier to deal with the same gender, but contrary to most beliefs, I actually prefer a male room mate than female.

Reason behind this preference is that, first and foremost, I don't like talking about gossips at home because many women like gossips. Many females include this as their past time. I didn't say I don't gossip, but I am usually the receiver of the gossip, but I don't spread it, because 1.) many of my female friends also didn't like to gossip and 2.) if I spread it to my male friends, I just wasted my saliva because men don't really like gossips unless they are gay. I had one roommate who is a military female, I just like her a lot because she is not full of crap and in the exception of her, my previous female room mates I had aren't a good fit with my personality. Not that they are horrible persons, but I noticed, I prefer a female with a strong personality like mine, so that they won't feel inferior of me, it makes me uncomfortable. Second, hang-ups from females tend to be more over-dramatic than males. Third, insecurity issues. The word says it all. I am not saying I am a better person than they are, but a strong woman has to be secured of herself and not mope and tell you that why is my life like this and not that or I don't know how to use a make-up, or my relationship, finances sucks and so on and so forth. I just couldn't deal with the drama because I have my own to mind, sure I'd provide you with sound advice, but it just costs too much effort to having to deal with a female's dramas period.

I have experienced being room mates with males before and I always find it easier to deal with them. No dramas, (because I may be the only one who does lol), they take care of you and the house very well, and lastly, they make trust-worthy and loyal friends. Two of my closest male friends are/were my roommates. Some of my male room mates are no longer in town or around where I am, but they were pretty nice and really made good impressions. Two were marines, one was a civilian contractor at a military base (short-stay), another who recently moved out was also a civilian contractor and the first two among all those are like brothers to me. All these men showed exemplary behavior and companionship in terms of living together in one house. Respectful of your privacy and most importantly treat you like a sister and not a competition which I noticed with my previous female roommates (this is just my intuition, I may be wrong but..) I mean, sure, I would consider another female room mate, but I just got sick of dramas after the 3 female roommates I had. So, in every 4 females, only one can potentially  be a good match based on my experience and analysis. I am still open for female roommates though.

So far, I have two interested males to rent the room. Both sounded polite and courteous. I will be able to find out if they qualify once me and my friend who is the owner of the house get to meet them so they can check out the rooms available to rent and for us to determine if they are a good fit with our personalities. I hope everything will work out fine and find another who can potentially widen our social circle and possibly friends list over either virtually and in person. :)